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PROSPERITY NEWS
"Your Motivational Ezine"

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Apr 15, 2005
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IN THIS ISSUE

Fear is nothing to be afraid of!
FEAR Don’t Let it Control You!
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A successful life is what we're all looking for, but in order to be
achieve this, we must meet the challenges which we encounter each and
every day. Is this easy? Most times it's not. We have to overcome
our fears of failure and sometimes even our fear of success. The
following guest articles show us how to face up to these fears.

,,,,,,,,,, June

FEAR IS NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF!
by Damien Senn

What do you do when fear shows up? Do you hide under the covers of
life, shivering as you anxiously wait for the moment to pass or do you
stand up with a confident smile and embrace it?

Your answer to this simple question will have a considerable impact on
the level of freedom, excitement and empowerment you experience on a
daily basis. Whatever your response, the thing to remember is that
your fears are nothing to be afraid of!

What is Fear?

The Oxford dictionary defines fear as "an unpleasant emotion caused by
the expectation of pain". The thing to note here is that the emotion
of fear is caused by the 'expectation' of pain rather than the actual
'experience' of pain. There is no requirement that our fears be based
on any form of rational or objective thought. In fact, it's entirely
possible that the fears that exist in our lives are based purely on
anticipated scenarios that may never actually transpire. The problem
is however, that we live and act as if these scenarios are constantly
replaying in our lives.

False Evidence that Appears Real.

One of my favourite definitions of fear is "False Evidence that
Appears Real". In today's modern society we are conditioned to be
fearful of just about everything. We fear failure, yet also fear
success. We fear being lonely, yet fear being truly loved. We fear
restrictions on our freedom to speak, yet we fear speaking out.

You are not Alone.

I think one of the big things to consider about fear is that you are
not alone. We all experience fear. It's a very natural part of being
human. It's not fear itself that's the problem, it's what we actually
do with the fear when it enters our lives. Channelled effectively,
fear can be a great catalyst for change and a tool for reclaiming your
personal power. At the other extreme, avoiding fear will paralyse your
life force.

Physical Symptoms of Fear.

The physical symptoms that we experience as a result of fear are
really not as frightening as many of us make out. Some typical fear
symptoms include the tightening of the chest and throat, muscle
weakness, sweaty palms, energy depletion, a dry mouth and
breathlessness. What, no loss of limbs or physical torture? In all
seriousness, when you really think about it, the physical symptoms of
fear are hardly anything to be afraid of.

Overcoming Your Fear.

One of the best ways to overcome your fears is to actually show up in
spite of them. An old personal fear of mine was speaking in public.
For some strange reason it terrified me and it was made all the worse
by the fact that I avoided it as much as I could. As it happens,
through the course of a seminar business I was involved with a couple
of years ago, I had to introduce a speaker in front of an audience of
around 300 people. My brief speech started well, but then all of a
sudden my fears got the better of me. I lost my flow and stood
speechless on stage for around 15 seconds (though it felt like a life
time!) trying to remember my position.

This experience signalled to me that it was time to face my fear
because I never wanted to be in a situation where I felt uncomfortable
talking to a group of people again. I decided to join a very
supportive public speaking club that meets on a weekly basis. I
disciplined myself to show up every week in spite of my fears. Now I
not only love public speaking but I get paid to do it as well!

Calculate the Costs!

What has fear cost you in your lifetime already? How many
relationships have you let slip by? How many job opportunities have
you not applied for? How many business ideas have you turned your back
on simply because of the fact that you let your fears get the better
of you?

Never in your life has there been a better time to confront your
fears. Now is the time to stop being afraid of them. Meet them, greet
them and then channel that energy into creating a life you can be
proud of!

Damien Senn is a Life and Business Coach as well as a fully qualified
Chartered Accountant. He helps professionals, artists and
entrepreneurs create compelling futures. He is the author of the
'Senn-Sational Success Journal' and has developed his own coaching
model called the 'Senn-Sational Success System'. For your free life
coaching tool '101 things to do before you die', please click the
following link: http://www.senn-sational.com/freeresources.htm

FEAR Don’t Let it Control You!
by Glen Hopkins

Fear. What is it? Can you touch it? Can you hold it? Can you show it
to another person? I can almost hear you from where I am sitting. No,
no, no. Okay then, so you can’t touch it, you can’t hold it, and you
can’t show it to another person. The question then is, why? Why do we
have fear? Fear is nothing more than an emotion or a feeling that we
hold in our mind. We fear either the emotional or physical pain
something may cause. The problem is, these emotions and feeling affect
the way we live our lives. We fear doing certain things because we
think we might fail. This may be due to past failures we have actually
experienced or it may be due to failures we fear we might experience.

I urge you to remember and live by the following motto. Fear stands
for,

False Evidence that Appears Real

Most of the time what we fear, we have never even experienced! Isn’t
that crazy? You see, your mind has a hard time determining whether
you’ve actually experienced the failure or just imagined it. Either
way, you feel the physiological symptoms of the fear; such as an upset
stomach. Often, because we can imagine some sort of failure, we
believe it will come true, and then we don’t even try! And that is
what makes a failure; a person who is afraid to try because they fear
the potential of a negative outcome. If you don’t at least try, you
can never succeed.

"I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which
actually happened." - Mark Twain

The question now becomes who defines what ‘failure’ and ‘success’ is?
You do right? Either you create the definition yourself or you accept
someone else’s definition. Is it true then that some people create
more difficult definitions of success and failure for themselves than
others do? You bet it is! Who do you think leads a more successful
live, Alex who defines success as, everyday that I wake up and I’m not
six feet under, is a great day. Or Jeff, who defines success as, I
have to be earning at least million dollars a year before I am
successful. You guessed right again. Alex. You see, Alex has created
her own definition of what success means and that definition is
relatively easy to achieve! Therefore, in her mind, she is successful
everyday. Whereas Jeff, as per his own definition, cannot be
successful until he is earning one million dollars a year. What are
the chances that most of the ‘Jeff’s’ in the world feel like failures
on a daily basis because they are not yet earning one million dollars
a year? Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that you should not set
high standards and goals for yourself. What I am saying is that you
have to be careful that you ‘happily achieve, rather than achieve to
be happy’.

The more difficult your definition of success is to attain, the more
fear you will attach to it. Don’t let your own definitions limit you.
Or even worse, the definitions of others. Create your own definitions
to make it harder to feel like a failure and easier to feel like a
success. That way you will attach less fear to what you want in life.
What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail? Image
what you can do in your life with that type of belief system. Try
thinking of every ‘failure’ as a success. That is, every time you
‘fail’ at something, you have really succeeded because you have
learned what does not work. Therefore, you are closer to succeeding
the next time you try. Remember that the past does not equal the
future. Yesterday’s failure does not equal your future outcomes. Just
because you may have failed yesterday, or even five minutes ago, it
doesn’t mean you are going to fail again. Just learn from what you did
wrong and change your approach. Don’t fear the past. The past is what
has taught you how to succeed in the future. Be fearless!

Copyright (c) 1999 Glen Hopkins. Glen Hopkins, owns Motivational-
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